Womens Relationship Advice

How to solve relationship problems with our "romantic week" plan

Day 1:

Leave a note professing your love for your partner to find during the day. Put the note where it will be found, easily.Try their briefcase, the driver's seat of their car, in their coat pocket, in their lunch bag, taped to the receiver of the phone, taped to their computer, or left taped to a doorknob.

As soon as you arrive home for the day seek out your partner and offer a big, loving kiss. Tell your partner how much you love him or her and ask about their day. Make this a new, daily habit.

As an alternate idea, when your partner arrives home for the day, take their hand and pull them towards you aggressively. Offer a huge hug, kiss and say, "I missed you today!”

Day 2:

While your partner showers, heat up his or her towel in the dryer.

Have flowers delivered to partner at work.

Surprise your partner by arriving home with their favorite drink, snack, or ice-cream.

Day 3:

Arrange for an intimate lunch date with your partner. Afterward, send a virtual card. Tell them how much you enjoyed lunch together.

Day 4:

Call your partner in the middle of the day to discuss your romantic plans for that evening.

Print out some love coupons (find them on-line) and present them to your partner.  One might say: this entitles loved one to a full-body massage, and sign your name.

Day 5:

For the kid in all of us!  Use multi-colored, sidewalk chalk to draw a BIG heart in red and write.  Print out the words, “I love you" in the middle of the heart.  Do this someplace that is prominent such as on your driveway so that when your partner comes home he or she will see it.

Cook a favorite meal for your partner and then eat it, slowly, by candlelight.

Day 6:

When the weather is best, take a brisk walk through a nature trail with your love and talk about all the reasons why

he or she is so special to you.

If the weather is dreary, have an indoor picnic. Spend the time together, inside enjoying your favorite board games and just relaxing and talking.

Cuddle up in your pj’s and relish a romantic movie together.

Day 7:

Just sleep in and cuddle together.Call into work and explain you are “under the weather” and need to rest a bit more before coming in.

Make a long list of the many reasons why you love your partner as you do and then have them framed and present it to him or her.

If you don’t live together, call your loved one just to say goodnight. Recite a favorite love poem over the phone and end with, “Sweet dreams, until we meet again!”

Useful Flirting Tips and Advice

Discover how to flirt to attract using body language and other tips

It is rather difficult to be romantic without first flirting. What exactly is flirting and how can you adapt some flirting into your own romantic moods and play? To begin, you don’t want to be too aggressive.Start with very friendly gestures and once you have gotten those moves down, and then go for the romantic flirting!

Flirting is a frame of mind:

Be self-confident and do not be afraid to take risks.
Be enthusiastic about romance and be positive!

Start a sexy conversation:

Start with a simple, opening line by saying hello.
Talk about anything at all, whatever will get the romance going.

Enjoy yourself and have fun:

Be playful, light-hearted and above all, be spontaneous.
Show that you can be vulnerable.

Make good use of all props:

Always use a prop.
Props will get the conversation started naturally. They encourage conversation and others will want to start talking to you.
Great props are: pets, children, great jewelry, a wonderful scent, a sweatshirt with your favorite sports team’s emblem, an interesting book or magazine.

Play host:

Take the lead by taking on the role of host.
Do not be the passive person in waiting, but rather the lead.

Introduce yourself first:

Move closer to the person you want to meet and introduce yourself confidently!

Listen-up:

Everyone loves to be heard and when you are a good listener your partner will be drawn to you.

Make bold eye contact:

Look your partner in the eye gently (no more than 2-4 seconds) and then look away. You don’t want to stare!

Pay a genuine compliment:

Your partner will be pleased and will warm up to you more.

Show a beautiful smile:

You will look so much more approachable. Everyone is attracted to a genuine and heartfelt, smile.

So there you go! These are all ground-breakers when wanting to approach someone with romance.We must always be mindful of the fundamentals.

When we just dive right in, unexpected, we can turn our loved one off.Go slow, a step at a time and feeling confident, approach with your best romance moves.

Lonely night alone feeling letter

Here night comes again
I meet a frozen sky, frozen clouds
Twinkling stars scattered in every sides of sight Crescent moon depict your sweet smile, remembering all the time we've had Hope it'll help me to through the lonely
Oh... All is going as should as
But I'm left alone enchained in silence
But some of them are too shallow to
understand my deep inside I've been almost insensible I've got to feel the chillness kills all nerves And brain likely stops to thinking
I can't evasive from a nightmare
Just praying
"God & angel please hold my soul until I find the dawn again"

Heart melting love letter

Never would I have imagined I would fall in love with someone at such a young age. I always believed love to be something built
M out of maturity and respect, not passion and lust.
Boy, was I ever wrong! Words can never express the way I felt, but I'll sure try. You made me quiver with every touch. My heart would beat with the music of your soul. I loved holding you, kissing you, just
being with you. You were everything I wanted,and not only someone I loved, but admired. If I
had one wish it would be to feel
the thrill of knowing I am the one for you, that out of all the people in the world, you chose me, I was the one you needed; your best friend. I am so lost without you. You are all I think about, and I simply cannot imagine life without you. There are days where I wish I never met you, but I know in my heart you were.sent to me for a reason, to teach me
the gift of love. If only I could figure out why I am without you now. I sometimes imagine you with someone else, in hopes it will help me move on, but one of the reasons I am so thankful to have met you, is because you have taught me hope, and made me fall in love with passion, faith, and love. I love the faith I have in us, even though I know it is slowly breaking me. I am a sincere, fun person, but after you I feel... worthless. I pray every night for you to come back, for you to touch me again. Every time I see you, I think, "Okay, get
one last look at his beautiful face and move on." I never do......

Small and impressive letter to show your love to your ex love

It has been about a year and
a half since seeing, hearing, and feeling you next to me. And you know that you are all that is important in my life. Though you made the decision of never acknowledging my existence in your life, I can never escape the pain and sorrow of the void you have left in my heart and soul. With each passing day, I die a little more and more....

Nine Points to Consider

What would someone living the Existential-Humanistic perspective be like?

1. You would explore what it means to exist and what it means for you to be human. Ask yourself who am I? What is my world?

2. You would value your unique subjective experience. Trust your own inward searching process  to discover and value who you are in the moment. When asking a question or confronting an issue, you would stay in silence for a moment and see what emerges.

3. You would balance the rational by being open to your intuitive self as well. Listen to the quieter voice we all have inside ourselves.

4. With compassion, you would be aware of the full spectrum of feelings and thoughts of which you are capable. Endeavor to experience and understand your feelings, rather than judging or excluding them.

5. You would embrace that we are all interconnected and that idea of an I-Thou relationship is an optimal way to relate to others. You would treat everyone in your life with reverence and respect, or as the saying goes, “If you see yourself in others, how can you cause anyone harm?”

6. You would intend to be more fully alive and vital. You seek out what uplifts you and enhances the quality of your life.

7. You would intend to live higher values of being human which include such values as Truth, Beauty and Justice. You could choose a value and have it be your mantra for a day or week.

8. You would believe we all have the capability to actualize in our lives more powerfully. What one small thing could you focus on today that would empower your future?

9. You would embrace the idea that human beings, if supported to be their authentic selves, will ultimately act in the best interests of themselves, of each other, of their community, and of the planet as a whole. You aspire to live with integrity in your thoughts, feelings, and actions.

To me, these ideals are exciting and enlivening points to consider. Integrating these ideals, although not always easy, supports the framework for a life well-lived.

How to Increase the Likelihood of Life-Changing Insights

Instead of waiting for Eureka moments, prep your mind and invite them in

So there it was again, an old pain coming back in full speed. Do you have one of these returning problems that come and visit you out of the blue like an old pal, except you want to smash the door right into him, saying, “No, you are not welcome here. I have given you enough attention. I’ve tried every psychological trick under the sun. I felt you. I observed you. I rethought, rebutted, reframed, understood, ignored, and made light of you. So: No! Get lost.” It’s not that poor manners ever worked for me. Quite the contrary. The more aggressively I tried to shut out my unwanted guest, the longer he ended up staying. He demanded attention, stating the obvious, “Resistance is futile”. There was nothing else to do but to deal with him, again and until further notice.

I know I am not alone. One of my friends put it this way, “I cannot believe I am still feeling so jealous. I thought I had dealt with it successfully. How old do I have to be to get rid of it?” Zen Buddhists would answer that it doesn’t matter what comes up in our mind, but how we relate to it. Content is less relevant than the inner peace with which we greet it. Maybe some part of our suffering is here to stay. Most psychologists concur that some problems are too big to heal and can only be managed well. The only ones claiming 100% success are either too young to know better or too eager to sell their product.

Wonderful. I am sure you feel encouraged by this news. Bad stuff for ever.

Except. Besides appreciating the healing that undoubtedly does take place with the right attention, besides reaping the many benefits of accepting darkness as part of life, there are breakthroughs, sudden shifts in consciousness, split-second insights that can change our lives to the better and for good. Epiphanies do happen. When a solution suddenly emerges in our awareness that feels like a perfect fit, when we finally understand something deeply or can see it in a new light, the problem dissolves completely. These insights are accidents of the mind, something we seem to stumble in and are taken by.* Usual feelings of having done something to deserve the dissolve are not there. It seems to have happened to us, as a matter of chance or grace.

The question is: do we have any control over the process of deep insights or must we simply wait? In psychology, problems that rely upon understanding the true nature of a situation are known as insight problems. Their solutions are not obvious, in part because we often use top-down processing which is analyzing the situation based on previous knowledge. It causes us to get hooked on the familiar which may be irrelevant to solving the problem.

Researchers believe that we can train ourselves to become unstuck and look at a problem in a fresh way. For example, Kounios et al. believe that it’s the right preparation to a problem that determines if we can solve it or not, just as Louis Pasteur suggested,

“Chance favors only the prepared mind.”

One form of preparation is studying. Another is accessing “distinct brainstates,” which is what the researchers used in their study.** They used rather straightforward problems, such as presenting three words that the participants had to connect by finding one additional word, turning all three into compound words (e.g., apple turning pine, crab, sauce into pineapple, crabapple, applesauce). The study shows that neural activity in certain areas of the brain helped find the correct solutions. Somehow (and the “how” is not explained in this study), we need to get ourselves in an optimal state of mind for our Eureka moments.

It is also known that just walking away from a problem can facilitate “Aha!” experiences.* When we are tense, we tend to overuse our verbal, analytical mind (left hemisphere) while creativity is suppressed (right hemisphere). As you may have noticed, a word on the tip of your tongue comes to you when you relax your effort. Relaxation is a big ingredient to mind shifts.

So, what does this all mean to you and me? Let’s go back to my reoccurring pain which was really about somebody who is caring and present-minded one day and self-centered and shut-down the next. Upon hearing me out, a good friend of mine asked me a bunch of questions, one of them I had never pondered. She asked, “Is it possible for you to enjoy his company like a roller coaster ride which you know will end?” I was taken by surprise. Possibilities revealed themselves. Anticipating clearly the inevitable end, I might be able to let go of the greatest fun on earth, human connection. This was my epiphany. It was the last time I was visited by that particular pain.

Come to think of it now, these years of dealing with my old pal in so many ways were not lost years. Because of the complexity of the problem –I am sure you appreciate that I haven’t shared the whole story- understanding its true nature took time. Practicing Zen, I had also learned a great deal about letting go with meditation Indeed, I had thoroughly prepared myself until that point. Finally and right after relaxing my mind with a wonderful friend “hearing me out”, I was ready for a new question. I was ready for being changed in a split-second.